Covid-19.. Wherever you are…there’s no escape from it now.
How are you, friends and family doing during this period of our lives?
How are you, the borderless person and your loved one who lives in a different country dealing with the time away from each other?
Many of our clients are dealing with the long-distance relationship right now. One of my clients told me that him and his fiance hasn’t been able to see each other since January due to many other time issues prior to the countries went lockdown.
He was worried a bit – more about how long the travelling ban will continue, but I am pretty confident they will be fine as long as they can keep the good spirits and have the regular video conversation.
If you are just overwhelmed with the situation and haven’t had a chance to figure out what to do with your relationship, I strongly recommend you to make time to talk to her/him, friends, family etc…this is now much easier because everyone is home these days.
Here are some suggestions that help to keep the distance relationship alive after the pandemical period is over.
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Share your feeling. Let her/him know that you are dealing with anxiety, worried and scared…etc Sharing and talking about how you feel certainly helps to make the heart grow fonder. You will also build a strong desire to be together in person, too. So, don’t be afraid to share how you are feeling.
It is also good to talk to your friends and family. People do find reliefe of some level from the anxiety, especially when you find out that another person you are talking to also feeling the fear, worry and anxiety…etc. So, don’t hold back but talk and share your feelings with others.
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Talk about the future. Talk about the distance makes the heart grow fonder..part. Although, we don’t know when we can start travelling again, making a tentative plan to be together won’t hurt. You can’t make a booking yet, but you can talk about where you want to meet, where you want to go, where you want to stay etc…the mind can wander all over the world!
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Regular Video call time. This is when texting becomes less and video calls should take over from distance relationship. If not every day, 2-3 times a week. Set the time for each other. I also recommend it to set a time limit per call even if it is free. (i.e. 60-90 minutes)
Besides, Zoom, SKYPE, I found “Whereby” pretty good. You can get up to 4 people for free. No need ID, set up, nor download like other free Apps.
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Do the “To-do” list. You have the time in the world to do things that you have been wanted to do. Find something to spark joy… Start the diet, make workout routine, go for walk and/or try meditation…. anything to make you feel good about yourself.
This is an important part since your mind mirrors your situation. (I am a true believer of negative/positive vibration/energy stuff!)
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Go back to the basics. Don’t you think we’ve forgotten that we should be working to live not another way around? You’ve been working so hard and you had no personal life as a result.
Now that you have no business trips, no late-night meetings, no entertainment dinners… it is time to reach out to the loved ones to talk.
Share Aloha and Love….
Remember…
Money won’t help your anxiety, fear and worry disappear but the warm heart will.
They say the absence makes the heart grow fonder.. I hope you can make that happen to your love who is away, too.
Hope you stay well and healthy!
Love and Peace..
